What inspired you to start your business?

I’m often referred to as the ‘Networking Queen’, a title I initially was uncomfortable with but have now embraced. It is hard to believe that just 8 years ago I was terrified of strangers – people used to describe me as painfully shy, even cringe worthy. I would stumble over words, shake, quiver, go blank, endure many sleepless nights and even hyperventilate. It got so bad that I would freeze before walking into an event and couldn’t do it, I would faint and even black out. Three times I’ve had to have heart testing at Greenlane Hospital due to the severe panic attacks!

So, I know all about feeling out of place, awkward, shy & fearful of connecting with others. My catalyst for change was getting to the point where I was so sick to death of being afraid that I just had to take action; any action. Eventually, my desire for change outweighed my comfort (and fear) of staying put. Now I love helping others connect, engage, enjoy and meet new friends and useful contacts.

Tell us about your business?

My purpose is to not only help people overcome fear but thrive as a result. I have four personal fear projects that I am at varying stages of conquering – networking (I think I’m close but I’m always upskilling), public speaking, media (TV, radio, podcasts, blogs) and video. If I want to take my brand around the country and across the world, I will need to master these four projects to get the best possible outcomes.

What do you love about running your business?

Where once I was scared of strangers, now I love meeting new people and making new contacts. I get a thrill out of learning about them and their stories. I love the flexibility of being able to choose my own hours and create the lifestyle that I want.
I love the lightbulb moments clients have and the delight they get in achieving, whether it’s a little or big step towards their major goal. I learn just as much from them as they do from me. I love how people want to join me on my journey as part of theirs.

What have been some of your biggest challenges?

One of my biggest challenges in running my own business is staying motivated and keeping procrastination at bay. Luckily, I have an advisory board who ‘butt-kick’ me when needed so I can achieve the goals I have set for myself and the business.

Do you have a favourite quote?

‘Your smile is your logo, your personality is your business card, how you leave others feeling after an experience with you becomes your trademark.’ (Jay Danzie)

Who inspires you, and why?

I love the work of Brene Brown. The way she tackles tough situations and behaviours and break them down so that people can overcome and thrive is inspiring. As I navigate the journey of learning how to do public speaking effectively and well, she epitomises how I’d like to be – vulnerable, engaging and funny with it (even though she classes herself as 90% introvert just like me!). As with anything, when you put yourself out there and try something new, you are bound to get criticised, so I love her quote ‘If you’re not in the arena and also getting your arse kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback’.

What growth have you experienced being in Venus?

Venus for me has been about being inspired, getting educated, creating a supportive team around to propel my business forward. I am hugely grateful for the relationships and friendships I have developed through my membership.

Women are redefining success and growing businesses on their terms: What does success look like to you?

I have a quote that I live by and is my focus for every day – ‘Success is about who you are, not what you have. Successful people discover their talents, develop their talents and use those talents to benefit others and themselves’ (Tom Morris)

What’s your favourite pastime when you are not working?

I love to travel so my ultimate goal would be to get around nationally and internationally doing speaking engagements and experiencing new cultures.
Carmel Murphy

carmel@carmelmurphy.co.nz

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